You
How does it feel to you?
They
How does it feel to them?
The same Aspect from both sides. Subtract one score from the other and you have the Feel Gap.
AlignSynchHow do you feel, against how they feel?
You both answer the same five Aspects, twice over: how it is now, and how you each want it to be. The answers rarely match, and the distance between them is the Gap.
Read Avery and RowanYou
They
The same question, answered twice
Every Aspect gets two answers, one from each of you. Neither is a score to chase. One says where the relationship is today; the other says where you each want it to go.
You
How do you wish it to be?
They
How do they wish it to be?
What each of you wants next, on the same Aspect. The Wish Gap is how far those two wishes sit apart.
Four templates
A template does nothing until two people copy it and answer its five Aspects. Relationship Basics, answered by Avery and Rowan, is the one with answers to read.
Relationship Basics
5 Aspects
Staff & Manager
Staff / Manager5 Aspects
Parent & Child
Parent / Child5 Aspects
Untitled Relationship
5 Aspects
No relationship yet
Nobody has answered this template yet. Its Aspects are still unnamed — the two answers each one asks for arrive with the relationship.
Two families
Every Relationship Type the templates cover. If no template backs a type, it isn't offered.
Business
Staff / Manager
Staff & Manager
Read Marco and Priya
Personal
Parent / Child
Parent & Child
Read Ruth and Sam