Parent & Child
Basic Mode
Relationship Type: Personal — the glossary's Parent / Child descriptor, Realm: Home. Five Aspects of raising a child together — check-ins, house rules, trust, one-to-one time and privacy — each answered from how it feels now to how you wish it to change.
Where you stand
Aligned under Soft — every Gap on this report meets it.
Soft Setting: Small Gap (1) OK – a satisfactory Setting.
Each Gap's bar has a tick at 1 of 4: the widest Gap your Soft Setting tolerates.
How often do you check in about their day?
Never—Every day
Feelings and Wishes Differ
| Gap | The two Opinions it compares | Gap value |
|---|---|---|
| Feel Gap | Ruth Feel4Sam Feel4 | 0In Synch |
| Wish Gap | Ruth Wish4Sam Wish4 | 0In Synch |
Desires To Change
| Gap | The two Opinions it compares | Gap value |
|---|---|---|
| Initiator Gap | Ruth Feel4Ruth Wish4 | 0In Synch |
| Counterparty Gap | Sam Feel4Sam Wish4 | 0In Synch |
How are the house rules agreed?
Handed down—Agreed together
Feelings and Wishes Differ
| Gap | The two Opinions it compares | Gap value |
|---|---|---|
| Feel Gap | Ruth Feel3Sam Feel3 | 0In Synch |
| Wish Gap | Ruth Wish3Sam Wish3 | 0In Synch |
Desires To Change
| Gap | The two Opinions it compares | Gap value |
|---|---|---|
| Initiator Gap | Ruth Feel3Ruth Wish3 | 0In Synch |
| Counterparty Gap | Sam Feel3Sam Wish3 | 0In Synch |
How much do you trust their judgement?
Not yet—Completely
Feelings and Wishes Differ
| Gap | The two Opinions it compares | Gap value |
|---|---|---|
| Feel Gap | Ruth Feel4Sam Feel4 | 0In Synch |
| Wish Gap | Ruth Wish5Sam Wish5 | 0In Synch |
Desires To Change
| Gap | The two Opinions it compares | Gap value |
|---|---|---|
| Initiator Gap | Ruth Feel4Ruth Wish5 | 1 |
| Counterparty Gap | Sam Feel4Sam Wish5 | 1 |
How much one-to-one time do you spend?
None—Every day
Feelings and Wishes Differ
| Gap | The two Opinions it compares | Gap value |
|---|---|---|
| Feel Gap | Ruth Feel2Sam Feel2 | 0In Synch |
| Wish Gap | Ruth Wish3Sam Wish3 | 0In Synch |
Desires To Change
| Gap | The two Opinions it compares | Gap value |
|---|---|---|
| Initiator Gap | Ruth Feel2Ruth Wish3 | 1 |
| Counterparty Gap | Sam Feel2Sam Wish3 | 1 |
How much privacy do they get?
None—As much as they ask for
Feelings and Wishes Differ
| Gap | The two Opinions it compares | Gap value |
|---|---|---|
| Feel Gap | Ruth Feel3Sam Feel3 | 0In Synch |
| Wish Gap | Ruth Wish4Sam Wish4 | 0In Synch |
Desires To Change
| Gap | The two Opinions it compares | Gap value |
|---|---|---|
| Initiator Gap | Ruth Feel3Ruth Wish4 | 1 |
| Counterparty Gap | Sam Feel3Sam Wish4 | 1 |